Say it out loud

Saying what we need to say is very important, otherwise it holds in our body as tension.  What we want to say may not always seem appropriate.  Once expressed, it may hurt someone's feelings, cause more tension or be said at the wrong time.  We may jump the gun and say something that hasn't been tested as true yet.

But what I'm talking about right now is getting things off our chest in privacy.  What we hold inside needs to come out.  It is important to release the energy held with the thoughts and words.  Our throat is generally where it is held.  We can feel the tension in our TMJ's, or jaw, and our neck.  Holding stuff in is not good.  The thoughts or things that we hold inside need not necessarily be said to another person, but simply expressed, out loud, to ourselves.  Many times it is both more prudent and beneficial if we express such thoughts in private.  We just need to get it out rather than hold it inside.

Action

When you are alone, say what's bothering you.  Say it when no one will hear you and say it with emotion.  Get it out!  Let loose!  Saying it releases the energy held inside. When we talk to others, we don't usually say everything and we don't say it with all the emotion it carries.

It needs to be said with the intention of saying it and letting it go.  What is the point of holding on to it? Take as long as you need and use whatever words you need to in order to truly express and release it. You don't have to filter your words, no one can hear.  It can be biased, a matter of opinion, ugly, unkind, whatever.  When you feel it's all out, take a deep breath, then say something positive to replace that energy.  Something like: "I release this and trust it will all fall into place," "I let it go and fill myself up with happiness," or "I'm done being mad, I don't need this anymore."

It's also very good to start speaking out loud about what you want in life, as opposed to what you don't want.  Use the power of words, thoughts, and feelings to your advantage.  Stop using words to complain and bring yourself down.  There must be a balance.  You can't hold everything in and you needn't dwell and complain about it all the time.  Get it out and leave it there.  Enjoy!