When we allow ourselves to be who we truly are, and not who we think others want us to be, our bodies can relax. When we try to accommodate the expectations of others by pretending or straining to be someone we are not, we waste vital energy. Our bodies cannot maintain such inconsistencies without becoming both mentally and physically drained.
Would you expect that of another? Wouldn't you prefer others to be themselves around you? Why then do we think we have to be someone we're not in order to make others happy?
It takes too much energy to be someone you are not. Our bodies become tense when trying to put on a show for others. As you now know, tension wreaks havoc all over the body. It is so important to remain true to yourself, to your likes and dislikes, to your dreams, your quirkiness, and your needs.
Take time to think about who you really are. What music do you like? What do you enjoy doing? It's not necessary to fit into one neat little mold. You can pick and choose the activities you most enjoy, regardless of how disparate they might seem to others. It's okay to like to watch TV. You don't have to be involved in a dozen activities, tiring yourself out, just to make a "good impression" on others. You don't have to be the next Martha Stewart decorating, cooking, or crafting from dawn 'til dusk. Stay true to your own interests and capabilities. Take a moment to listen to your thoughts, your heart and your body.
Do you like being alone or spending time with others? Do you enjoy relaxing activities or exciting activities or perhaps a mix of both? Do you like your hair long, short, or bald? Do you like to wear makeup or not? Do you dress according to the latest styles even if you don't like them, or are you more comfortable in classic pieces?
Do you ever take the time to wonder what motivates you to make the choices you make without fear of judgement? Do you sometimes wonder why we do what we do?
Action
Be who you want to be and be proud of who you are. We cannot please everyone. Why not please ourselves by remaining true to ourselves; and allow others to be themselves? Take the time to consciously choose. Enjoy yourself!
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Thursday, August 15, 2013
Trusting that all is well
Trusting that all is well is one of the best things you can do for your health mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It releases tension, which is harmful to your body, mind, and spirit. Believing "all is well" is sometimes easier said than done, but worth the try.
Saying "all is well" to yourself means not only saying it, but also hearing it and letting it sink in. You have to say it until you feel it, so the thought can infiltrate through your cells. This simple practice allows your body to relax and get out of stress mode, which I've described in past blogs. It allows you to trust that though you may not see the whole picture, things can be working themselves out right now. Some people believe that things only work out if they themselves do something about it. They think that they are fully responsible for something to come to fruition. They don't feel as though there is a larger power out there that can help them. It can be very tiring when you feel that you are your only resource. And it can feel very lonely.
Imagine that there is a force that helps expedite or fix things that you can't figure out how to handle? Wouldn't that be amazing? Wouldn't you be able to relax a little? Wouldn't you feel relief? Take a moment to feel what it feels like if that were true right now....because it is true. And it is very healthy for your body to experience that feeling throughout the day.
Action
Try it for one day. Keep repeating "all is well," and allowing that to sink into your body. You can add "everything is working itself out," "the money will come from somewhere," "my relationship with this person can change," "the answer will come to me," or "the right person, people or opportunity will come into my life."
Doing this takes the stress out of trying to figure things out and releases a lot of the burden we tend to carry. It's true when they say "ask and it shall be given to you." It happens, but we have to remember to give it time to work.
Saying "all is well" to yourself means not only saying it, but also hearing it and letting it sink in. You have to say it until you feel it, so the thought can infiltrate through your cells. This simple practice allows your body to relax and get out of stress mode, which I've described in past blogs. It allows you to trust that though you may not see the whole picture, things can be working themselves out right now. Some people believe that things only work out if they themselves do something about it. They think that they are fully responsible for something to come to fruition. They don't feel as though there is a larger power out there that can help them. It can be very tiring when you feel that you are your only resource. And it can feel very lonely.
Imagine that there is a force that helps expedite or fix things that you can't figure out how to handle? Wouldn't that be amazing? Wouldn't you be able to relax a little? Wouldn't you feel relief? Take a moment to feel what it feels like if that were true right now....because it is true. And it is very healthy for your body to experience that feeling throughout the day.
Action
Try it for one day. Keep repeating "all is well," and allowing that to sink into your body. You can add "everything is working itself out," "the money will come from somewhere," "my relationship with this person can change," "the answer will come to me," or "the right person, people or opportunity will come into my life."
Doing this takes the stress out of trying to figure things out and releases a lot of the burden we tend to carry. It's true when they say "ask and it shall be given to you." It happens, but we have to remember to give it time to work.
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
Energy Blocks
Energy is supposed to flow through us, up and down, from head to toe and back up again, as well as radiate outward throughout our tissues. When our energy does not flow, our health will suffer in some way. Energy with low frequency is usually what holds, or gets stuck, in pockets throughout our body. It can hold in muscle, fascia, and organs. The origins of this energy can be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. It can also be a combination of these.
Though you can hold any types of energy anywhere in your body, they do tend to hold in specific areas. Anger and resentment hold in the liver. Frustration and indecision hold in the gall bladder. Hurt, abandonment, and betrayal hold in the heart. Grief and sadness hold in the lungs. Fear, worry, and concern hold in the kidneys. Anxiety and feeling stressed out hold in the adrenal glands, which sit above the kidneys. The pancreas holds life/death issues and shock. The stomach holds daily stresses and gut instinct issues. The large intestine, or colon, holds control issues or resistance to change. The small intestine holds food sensitivities and feeling out of control regarding something. These are some examples of where certain emotions are held within your body.
Memories hold in the body as well, usually in the mind or in the body where the related emotions are held. Memories of an injury can also be held specifically in the area affected by the injury. Let's look at an example.
If a person was in a car accident, and he injured his neck, he may be holding onto the memory and associated emotions of the accident. He may have had physical therapy or other treatments, but the pain has not completely gone away. He could be holding the image, shock, fear, or disbelief of seeing the accident about to happen. Chances are that immediately prior to the accident, he tensed up and held his breath. Under such circumstances, the ribcage can actually continue to hold in an inhaled position. The person could be holding regret for being there in the first place; thinking "I should have just gone home. Why did I stop at the store?" The physical energy of the impact can be lodged in the tissues. If the person or others in the car were injured, he could be holding guilt, sadness, anger, etc. If the person's life changed afterward, causing pain, loss of job, or loss of car, that energy is added to the mix.
Another example is that of a person whose car was hit from behind. She most likely got the wind knocked out of her and her ribcage is holding exhaled. She may now be nervous driving, wondering if the car behind her will slow down and stop or if she will be hit again. This anxiety can translate into other areas of her life. She might now be uncharacteristically jumpy or "waiting for the other shoe to drop."
Action
Are any of the areas of your body listed above bothering you lately? Do any of the related emotions seem to be something you could be holding? Think about it for a bit. Could you be holding onto stuff? How about when the pain or problem started, was there something going on that could have instigated the problem? Have you had any past injuries that may still be affecting you? Could you be holding on to the memories and emotions, even if it's not on your mind lately? How about stressful times in the past that may be holding on, stuck somewhere in your body; such as a divorce, the loss of a parent or family member? Any confusing times?
Give yourself a few minutes to think back. Most likely you will think of something and memories or feelings that are ready to come up will do so. If things don't come up easily, you can help the process along with your hands. Place your hands around the area, imagining you are holding it with love and warmth to help it release and heal. You can gently move your hands around massaging the area. You also can gently pulse or vibrate the area to help move the energy along. Use no judgement in what comes up. It is what it is and needs to release. You will feel better, lighter.
Though you can hold any types of energy anywhere in your body, they do tend to hold in specific areas. Anger and resentment hold in the liver. Frustration and indecision hold in the gall bladder. Hurt, abandonment, and betrayal hold in the heart. Grief and sadness hold in the lungs. Fear, worry, and concern hold in the kidneys. Anxiety and feeling stressed out hold in the adrenal glands, which sit above the kidneys. The pancreas holds life/death issues and shock. The stomach holds daily stresses and gut instinct issues. The large intestine, or colon, holds control issues or resistance to change. The small intestine holds food sensitivities and feeling out of control regarding something. These are some examples of where certain emotions are held within your body.
Memories hold in the body as well, usually in the mind or in the body where the related emotions are held. Memories of an injury can also be held specifically in the area affected by the injury. Let's look at an example.
If a person was in a car accident, and he injured his neck, he may be holding onto the memory and associated emotions of the accident. He may have had physical therapy or other treatments, but the pain has not completely gone away. He could be holding the image, shock, fear, or disbelief of seeing the accident about to happen. Chances are that immediately prior to the accident, he tensed up and held his breath. Under such circumstances, the ribcage can actually continue to hold in an inhaled position. The person could be holding regret for being there in the first place; thinking "I should have just gone home. Why did I stop at the store?" The physical energy of the impact can be lodged in the tissues. If the person or others in the car were injured, he could be holding guilt, sadness, anger, etc. If the person's life changed afterward, causing pain, loss of job, or loss of car, that energy is added to the mix.
Another example is that of a person whose car was hit from behind. She most likely got the wind knocked out of her and her ribcage is holding exhaled. She may now be nervous driving, wondering if the car behind her will slow down and stop or if she will be hit again. This anxiety can translate into other areas of her life. She might now be uncharacteristically jumpy or "waiting for the other shoe to drop."
Action
Are any of the areas of your body listed above bothering you lately? Do any of the related emotions seem to be something you could be holding? Think about it for a bit. Could you be holding onto stuff? How about when the pain or problem started, was there something going on that could have instigated the problem? Have you had any past injuries that may still be affecting you? Could you be holding on to the memories and emotions, even if it's not on your mind lately? How about stressful times in the past that may be holding on, stuck somewhere in your body; such as a divorce, the loss of a parent or family member? Any confusing times?
Give yourself a few minutes to think back. Most likely you will think of something and memories or feelings that are ready to come up will do so. If things don't come up easily, you can help the process along with your hands. Place your hands around the area, imagining you are holding it with love and warmth to help it release and heal. You can gently move your hands around massaging the area. You also can gently pulse or vibrate the area to help move the energy along. Use no judgement in what comes up. It is what it is and needs to release. You will feel better, lighter.
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