Forgiving Others Affects Your Body

Most people don't like to read things on forgiveness, either because they don't feel they need it or they don't want to forgive someone.  You may feel you have no one to forgive because you have already done so; but sometimes remnants can remain in your body.  If you don't want to forgive or don't feel as though you can because someone really hurt you, or what they did dramatically affected your life, you are sabotaging your health and happiness more than you know.

Forgiveness is not condoning what the other person did.  It is not excusing them.  Forgiveness is about you.  Holding on to a lack of forgiveness is like poison in your body.  It eats away at you.  It affects how you interact with others and yourself.  Forgiving cleanses you and your energy field.  When you don't forgive, you carry that person or circumstance with you in your energy field.  It's as if they or their transgression still maintains a profound influence in your life.

Magical things can happen when you finally release them from your field.  Animosity and resentment, two feelings which often accompany a lack of forgiveness, are heavy negative weights you carry.  Even if you think you have let it go, the body may still be holding onto it.  We can hold it in our liver, our heart, or as tension all over.  Letting it go has physical manifestations.  Doing so allows our organs to function better, our immune system to relax and not have to protect us, and our muscles to relax and be flexible.  We can feel lighter and trust life again.  We can trust God to take care of things.

I have seen way too many people hold on to old stuff.  It hurts them, their loved ones, and their lives in general.  I know it is easier said than done, but forgiving is well worth the effort.

Action 

Whatever you need to do, you need to do.  Writing a letter to the person (that you will never send) helps express all the feelings.  Don't worry about spelling, grammar, nice language, etc.  Let it spill out of you as it is inside.  Explore every aspect of the situation and every thought and feeling about the person or offense.

At the end, finish in a positive way.  You can write "I forgive this person," " I release this person or offense from my energy field and my life," "I wish them well in life," "I hope they have moved on and are treating others better," "I trust God is handling it all from here on out," or whatever seems to fit the bill.  Whatever works to release the anger, sadness, betrayal, or any other feelings you have inside.  Then throw it away, shred it, or burn it.  You do not need to keep it.  In fact, you don't want to keep it.  Release it and the negative feelings for good.

You may need to do this a few times, but it works.  It really works.  Once you can think of the other person without negative feelings coming up, it is resolved.  Even if you simply feel less anger than before, it is still healthy for you and your life.  You will feel lighter and begin to see good things happen in your life.  Give yourself this gift!